The incurable bromance.
No doubt that as a woman I have never understood nor experienced the thing that is the bromance. We females have somewhat of an equivalent on a whole other level but as women, we are lacking the bare essentials in our relationships with other women that make the bromance a bromance. Allow me to break it down for myself.
Who enters into a bromance?
This is rather straight forward. Any man of any sexual orientation, age, race or status can enter into bromance with one or more men at any time of their life for any period of time.
What is a bromance?
A bromance is a friendship existing between any of the above mentioned people for the benefit of all parties involved. Often referred to as a replacement relationship in the absence of a partner or as an escape from the same/opposite sex in a relationship of a sexual/loving nature.
Why does this bromance drive me nuts?
Normally it doesn’t but of late I have felt like a bromance has more meaning for my husband than his marriage. Let me not be unfair, my husband is a great husband who treats me well and looks after his family and me, he has many friends who I love and encourage him to see and entertain. Then, he has the bromance.
His bromance exists between him and another male friend who share the same interests (Warhammer and Magic). In his eyes, his bromance partner can do no wrong and I am certain that he feels the same way. The two of them spend hours texting each other, emailing each other and playing the above mentioned games with each other. Neither tires of the others company at any time and never do they gossip, fight, argue or disagree. It appears that they are one mind existing in two bodies and it feels perhaps sometimes I should be married to both (Polygamy is legal in South Africa after all, right?). Almost poetic yet sickening in the same breath.
As a wife it is common for me to argue or disagree with my husband. In fact, society encourages this as the basis for a healthy relationship. So how does this bromance, defying all laws of a healthy relationship, continue to function without a problem whatsoever?
How do I move on from this?
What exactly do I need to move on from you ask. Well, it is not the easiest thing to see your husband get along with someone other than you better than he does WITH you. I recognize this to be the most retarded of behaviors… What do I have to be jealous of? Another man? A pastime? A relationship dynamic? Who knows. I am certain that I am not the first and certainly won’t be the last female to question the behaviors exhibited in the throws of a bromance. That said, I am not the first female to turn a blind eye to allow my man the opportunity to be as geeky as required without me having to witness it, with someone other than me. Trust me, I have tried both of their favorite pastimes and to be perfectly honest, I am happy to leave it in the bromance.
And so… The bromance are in the garage, playing Magic the gathering the card game, in the dorkiest of bromance fashions. I am in the house watching tv and I am ok with that, because though the bromance doesn’t end when the games do, my husband still sleeps next to me tonight.
Take that bromance.